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Why Worry?
Worrying is a complete waste of time. If you worry about something and it works out, you worried for nothing. If you worry about something and it doesn’t work out, you have only made the situation worse by worrying and placing your focus on a result you don’t want, thereby helping to create it. When you allow events to unfold, envisioning the best outcome, you are using your energy and thoughts to create the results you desire. Worrying wastes huge amounts of energy. When you are happy, you have faith that things will turn out well and that the universe will provide solutions. When things continually work out for the best, you will see the magic of life. You will become accustomed to allowing this to happen and you will be happy.
When I moved to New Jersey from Canada in 2000, it was very difficult to find an apartment, but I knew I would find a suitable place to rent. One day, a friend of mine, who did not share my faithful attitude, said to me, “You’re never going to find a place in your price range. It’s impossible.” “Would you just try and be a little more positive?” was my reply.
The next day, out of frustration, I opened the phone book and looked up apartments in the yellow pages. I called the first management company in the list and asked if they had any vacancies. They told me they had a one bedroom unit that I could see any time. I drove there on my lunch hour to have a look and as I pulled up the shady, tree lined street where the garden apartment complex lay nestled, I knew this would be my new home. I was shown the freshly painted apartment with newly refinished wood floors and three windows in the living room overlooking a courtyard filled with trees. I loved it. It was perfect. I told the apartment manager I would take it, but he explained that another woman had just seen the place and she also wanted it. I asked him if I should fill out an application anyway, and he said yes.
I only had a glimmer of hope to get the apartment, but it seems that’s all that was required. At eleven o’clock the next morning I got a call from the management company stating that the other person hadn’t faxed her application and they were inquiring if I still wanted the apartment. I told them I did and that I would be there in an hour with the money. It was Friday and I had just deposited my paycheck, but I knew it wouldn’t clear until Monday. The management company assured me they wouldn’t deposit my rent check until Monday. I signed the rental agreement, got the key, went up to my new home, lay down on the bare floor and breathed a sigh of triumph. I was so elated I didn’t even care that I only had $20 left to my name and a temporary job. I knew it would all work out and you know what, it did.
How do you stop worrying? First you must have that intention and then realize you are in control of your thoughts. You don’t have to worry about anything. Worrying is a habit you learned. You didn’t worry as a child. Why should anything go wrong? Life is not supposed to be full of things going wrong. Almost every day I hear people say, “It’s always something!”
No it’s not! It’s not always something. Stop yourself from thinking that and saying that. If you believe it is always something, it will be. If you believe that things go smoothly, then they will. Consider nature, everything is perfect in the natural world and we are part of that world, so why should we experience mishap after mishap? When you say that it’s always something, you are not allowing yourself to believe that things can go well. You are in opposition to the natural flow of life. So go with the flow and watch life unfold perfectly, the way it’s meant to, and when you hear someone say, “It’s always something,” tell that person “No, it’s not.”
Being Happy
Our purpose in life is to be happy. That’s why we are here. We spend much of our lives pursuing what we believe will make us happy, but what we fail to realize is that happiness is a feeling and just thinking about what makes you happy will give you that feeling. You don’t need any thing to make you feel happy, you only need the thought and you will experience the happiness.
If you want a new job, imagine being in the position you want and earning the salary you desire; by doing so, you already have the feeling of happiness even before you get the job. Of course, you still want to get the job, since you can’t go shopping with your feelings, but the end result is already yours. You have already created the job, in your mind, by having the feeling. All you must do is to allow it to materialize and take the steps you feel are necessary. You might want to brush up on your skills so when your interview comes around you are more qualified and prepared.
The sense of accomplishment, opportunity to work at something you love and the increased income, which you associate with your new job, are created by thoughts. Thoughts are real and will attract that situation, or a similar one, into your life. On the other hand, since you already have the happy feeling, you might decide you like your current job. Either way you can’t lose since, no matter what the outcome, you’re already happy.
To quote Wallace Wattles from The Science of Getting Rich, Man must pass from the competitive to the creative mind; he must form a clear mental picture of the things he wants, and hold this picture in his thoughts with the fixed PURPOSE to get what he wants, and the unwavering FAITH that he does get what he wants, closing his mind against all that may tend to shake his purpose, dim his vision, or quench his faith.
We were all born happy. As small children we played, laughed and giggled throughout the day. We didn’t need anyone to tell us what we desired; in fact, we were willing to throw tantrums in order to get our way. We ate what we wanted and did as we pleased; resisting, without hesitation, anything we didn’t like. At that young age, when we became unhappy, we protested wholeheartedly by crying, kicking, screaming or trying to run away. Happiness was so essential to us then, we were willing to put 100 percent of our energy into anything that would help us attain and preserve our happy state. If we wanted a toy and it was given to us, we were delighted and totally content. If our plaything was taken from us, it became an overwhelming tragedy.
As we got older, we learned to accept that which didn’t make us happy–setting aside what we really desired. In addition, we learned that there are things we must do whether we liked it or not; that’s just the way life is. That was the lie we chose to believe, but it’s not the way life is supposed to be. You don’t have to accept or settle for anything. All you have to do is to have the intention to be happy, remember how it feels to be happy, and decide that you are happy.
Happiness is the first step, the number one thing, the essential beginning for no matter what goals you achieve, what spiritual path you take or what belief system you embrace, it is up to you to be happy. I am an expert at being happy and have devoted my life to maintaining my state of happiness at all times. Once I realized this was possible, I decided to write the book, Do You Want to Be Happy NOW? My intention in authoring this small volume was to make available the knowledge that keeps me happy on a regular basis and why should I not be? Why shouldn’t we all be living a happy life?
I have formulated some simple questions that you can ask yourself and determine if there are areas of your life that are preventing you from being as happy as you would like; that is assuming you desire happiness, but since it is our natural state, one would be foolish to desire anything else.
Ask yourself the following:
- Do you wake up happy, looking forward to the day ahead?
- Are you happy for others when their life goes well?
- Do you think that a change in your life would make you happier and if so, what type of change?
- Do you focus on happy thoughts and only allow uplifting influences on a regular basis.
- Do you feel joy every day?
- Do you give thanks frequently?
- Are you in touch with your intuition?
- If so, do you listen to the guidance your intuitive thoughts offer?
- Do you feel content at the end of the day?
- Do you believe happiness is possible for you?
- Do you believe you must be happy first?
There is no score and this is not a test, but merely an example of what is available to you in your life. Most likely you are happy to some extent, but are you as happy as you would like to be and if not, when exactly did you intend to begin putting forth the effort to make your life a happy one. Will you wait five more years or ten or perhaps when you are retired, then you can start enjoying life and feeling as good as you can? Sounds silly for someone to do such a thing doesn’t it, but this is what most people do. Right NOW is the time to begin to examine all your thoughts and beliefs and change them into ones that will ultimately make you happier.
In Do You Want to Be Happy NOW? I write that happiness is a decision; you must decide to follow your heart and live the life that is intended for you. It is totally up to you, no one will make you happy or unhappy, only you. So get going and join those of us who happily living our lives each day as we are intended to. It’s the best! Remember, life is good, all is well.
Excerpt from my book, ‘Do You Want to Be Happy NOW?’
Why Worry?
Worrying is a complete waste of time. If you worry about something and it works out, you worried for nothing. If you worry about something and it doesn’t work out, you have only made the situation worse by worrying and placing your focus on a result you don’t want, thereby helping to create it. When you allow events to unfold, envisioning the best outcome, you are using your energy and thoughts to create the results you desire. Worrying wastes huge amounts of energy. When you are happy, you have faith that things will turn out well and that the universe will provide solutions. When things continually work out for the best, you will see the magic of life. You will become accustomed to allowing this to happen and you will be happy.
When I moved to New Jersey from Canada in 2000, it was very difficult to find an apartment, but I knew I would find a suitable place to rent. One day, a friend of mine, who did not share my faithful attitude, said to me, “You’re never going to find a place in your price range. It’s impossible.”
“Would you just try and be a little more positive?” was my reply.
The next day, out of frustration, I opened the phone book and looked up apartments in the yellow pages. I called the first management company in the list and asked if they had any vacancies. They told me they had a one bedroom unit that I could see any time. I drove there on my lunch hour to have a look and as I pulled up the shady, tree lined street where the garden apartment complex lay nestled, I knew this would be my new home. I was shown the apartment, which was freshly painted with immaculate wood floors and three windows in the living room overlooking a courtyard filled with trees. I loved it. It was perfect. I told the apartment manager I would take it, but he explained that another woman had just seen the place and she also wanted it. I asked him if I should fill out an application anyway, and he said yes.
I only had a glimmer of hope to get the apartment, but it seems that’s all that was required. At eleven o’clock the next morning I got a call from the management company stating that the other person hadn’t faxed her application and they were inquiring if I still wanted the apartment. I told them I did and that I would be there in an hour with the money. It was Friday and I had just deposited my paycheck, but I knew it wouldn’t clear until Monday. The management company assured me they wouldn’t deposit my rent check until Monday. I signed the rental agreement, got the key, went up to my new home, lay down on the bare floor and breathed a sigh of triumph. I was so elated I didn’t even care that I only had $20 left to my name and a temporary job. I knew it would all work out and you know what, it did.
How do you stop worrying? First you must have that intention and then realize you are in control of your thoughts. You don’t have to worry about anything. Worrying is a habit you learned. You didn’t worry as a child. Why should anything go wrong? Life is not supposed to be full of things going wrong. Almost every day I hear people say, “It’s always something!”
No it’s not! It’s not always something. Stop yourself from thinking that and saying that. If you believe it is always something, it will be. If you believe that things go smoothly, then they will. Consider nature, everything is perfect in the natural world and we are part of that world, so why should we experience mishap after mishap? When you say that it’s always something, you are not allowing yourself to believe that things can go well. You are in opposition to the natural flow of life. So go with the flow and watch life unfold perfectly, the way it’s meant to, and when you hear someone say, “It’s always something,” tell that person “No, it’s not.”
No Regrets
Regret is another waste of time and energy, just like worrying. You can’t change what happened or what you or someone else, did so why waste your time and energy regretting it? When you regret something, you are still putting your energy and thoughts into what you are regretting. Therefore, you are still participating in and sustaining events you wish had occurred differently or never happened. If you continue to regret, over time you will also end up regretting all the time you spent regretting. When you are happy, you will not regret anything because you know that everything that happened was necessary get you to your happy state.
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